Problems like these can cause many to avoid dating within the industry altogether. “There’s just a lot of little jealousies and a lot of bickering inside the industry.” “When you’re dating within the industry, yes, there’s a lot more understanding, but there are a lot of idiosyncrasies that are real pains in the ass, like, ‘Oh, you got to fuck my boyfriend,’ and ‘I’m a bigger star than you, I have a bigger following here,’” he says. Michael DelRay is a gay porn performer who works for companies like Next Door Studios and CockyBoys, and he feels that dating within and outside of the adult film industry are equally difficult.

“Besides making me uncomfortable, if I am with someone who I am interested in, this can be a little embarrassing.”Īt first glance, the most obvious option to many would be to date within the industry, but dating another porn actor can be a struggle of its own. “I’ve been out to the bars before and people will say things to me that, because I am a sex worker, they think it is acceptable to say to a total stranger - complimenting my… size, or my body, making sexual remarks to me, etc.,” he writes in the video’s description.